Hello everyone,
I hope that you’re all doing well. I’m deeply grateful to God to share with you a new piece of work called “Jacob Meets Rachel.” Jacob is one of the most pivotal characters of the Old Testament. His grandfather was Abraham, and his father was Isaac. Both are well known to have walked with God profoundly.
Jacob’s life was full of struggle, false hope, and pain. However, through all of it, he became victorious and stayed victorious. His character was so strong that God Himself physically fought with him for one complete night. After that fight, God called him Israel. “And He said, ‘Your name shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel; for you have struggled with God and with men, and have prevailed.’” — Genesis 32:28 (NKJV). The nation of Israel carries the name of that pivotal man.
There is a lot to say about Jacob. Before becoming this amazing man of God, he started life as a cheater and a liar. He tricked his older brother into giving him his heritage due to his firstborn position. Then he tricked his father as well. While Jacob was still young, he ran from home, as his brother wanted to kill him. In his escape, he experienced two things:
1 – God. He asked God to reveal Himself to him.
2 – Romance. He then met his future wife.

Those two points are my message to all of you. You might search for foundation and direction in life. Also, you might want to find a husband or a wife. Believer, or not, I hope these few words can be helpful to you.
Jacob experienced God while he was lost and full of fears, and God became his absolute foundation in life — not a woman, nor wealth, nor anything else. I encourage you to do the same: to have a heart-to-heart encounter with the Living God and to let Him become your absolute foundation in life — for everything (spiritually, morally, physically, intellectually, etc.).
Why is this pivotal? If you don’t have God as your absolute foundation, you will have other foundations, which will be weak, temporary, uncertain, and ready to break at any moment. Once it all falls apart, your life will fall apart as well. If you have God, even if everything goes against you in life, you won’t break, you won’t be shaken, because your joy doesn’t depend on those things. God is your everything. As Jacob before you, you will be victorious — even if it takes a lot of time, pain, struggle, and tears. If you want to give your hear to God, I hope this article can be helpful to you : Are You Saved?
Regarding romance: ask God to write your love story.
If you desire to have a husband or a wife, it is a beautiful thing. I encourage you to follow God’s way for it, not the world. While you ask for a lifelong love story, I encourage you to become a true man or woman of God. Observe Jacob’s personality. God started a profound work in Jacob’s character and heart. He will do the same with you.
It is amazing to find a godly partner, but if we aren’t ready in our character and personality, we might not be able to handle it properly. God wants you to enter romance smoothly. He wants to spare you pain, useless drama, and confusion. He wants us to understand our respective roles. God has a design for it. A man isn’t a woman, and a woman isn’t a man. Men should develop their healthy masculinity, and women their healthy femininity. While we’re equal in value in God’s eyes, we have different gifts and roles. We will overview some of them below.
ROLE OF THE MAN

First, seek a woman of God. Not a worldly woman. God loves both the believer and the unbeliever, but He wants you to find someone who already loves Him. This is the number one factor. God wants to be in the center of your marriage. If one of the lovers doesn’t care about God and His Word, you will suffer in one way or another. Why? Because the most important factor in your life cannot be understood nor shared in depth with your lover, and it will create major differences in the long run (the moral direction of the house, the wrong recognition of patterns of the masculine/feminine roles, the education of the kids if you have them, politics, etc.). See 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 and 1 Corinthians 7:39. So what should you be looking for?
Does she love Christ? Is her faith genuine? Do her actions reflect The Scriptures? What does her lifestyle look like? How does she treat her family? What does she do in her free time? What is her speech like? Does she use curse words? Who are her friends? How does she react under pressure? You must not be impressed by a Biblical quote on her Instagram. It means nothing. Her entire lifestyle must tell you who she is. Never invest all your efforts into the wrong woman because you find her cute or smart. Way before you find her by God’s grace, focus on developing those different sections:
• 1) — Sacrificial love. Love your wife as Christ loved the Church. The Church isn’t a building. The Church means all the believers in Christ around the globe. As you already know, Jesus Christ died for us so that we can be saved and have eternal life. You also should develop sacrificial love for your wife. You should do everything you can to protect her, provide for her, and give her peace, security, and comfort. See Ephesians 5:25 and Ephesians 5:28
• 2) — Leader. God called you to be the leader and the head of your family. It doesn’t mean that you are superior, but it is the order that God created to develop a successful marriage. In the relationship, the man symbolizes Christ and the woman the Church. Your role must be to imitate Christ. Christ was not a tyrant nor a dictator, but a perfect servant to all of us, teaching us the way we should go, in tenderness and kind firmness. Lead and serve your wife with gentleness in the same Spirit — always more and more in God’s Heart. Have multiple prayer times with her, study the Scriptures. Jesus and the Scriptures must be your most talked-about subjects. Don’t be passive in the relationship. Always initiate. Give the moral, spiritual direction of your house, always in complete tenderness. Take good decisions, talk about them with your wife, listen to her advice, ask her opinion; she isn’t inferior to you. We men go last in the family. See Ephesians 5:23 and 1 Corinthians 11:3
• 3) — Provide. Your goal is to create a safe environment where she can develop her God-given quality of being a woman of God, a wife, and a mother if you both want kids. She should not bother having to work for someone else, or spend a penny from her own pocket. It doesn’t mean that she cannot have a career or be an entrepreneur if she wants to. But the main idea is for her to not be stressed financially to support the family. Being a wife and a mother is already a big, big work. She should be able to get anything she wants. I’m saying this in a wise way. I’m not talking here of a purely materialistic and out-of-control way to spend money. See 1 Timothy 5:8 and Proverbs 13:22 Remember, even if, as a man, you don’t have your finances checked yet, this should not stop you from entering a Godly relationship. If she is from the Lord, she will love you at your very lowest and will grow with you. God knows that finances aren’t easy for everyone. Many Biblical heroes were broke when they met their wives (Moses, Jacob, David) See Ecclesiastes 4:9-10. But you must strive to provide for her. God will bless such a posture of heart.
• 4) — Honor. Show her honor and respect in private and in public. Show her that she is valued and respected by your actions and words. Notice everything she does. Thank her and praise her for everything she does for God, you, and your family. See Proverbs 31:28. Understand her feminine needs. While women aren’t inferior to men, they are usually more delicate and fragile. Constantly look after her. Never raise your voice against her, nor ever be violent, even in the midst of a disagreement. Never treat her badly, even if you feel bad or frustrated. Do you know that our prayers can be blocked if we are harsh to our wives? We don’t want to provoque our Lord to Anger. See 1 Peter 3:7 and Colossians 3:19
• 5) — Faithful. Commit to her fully. Cultivate transparency and avoid any elements that would contribute to fragilizing your marriage. She should be able to take your phone anytime. If you get married, there is no place to see/text another woman alone, even if she is your friend. Rather, always include your wife in your meetings with friends, and vice-versa. Marriage isn’t a game. It’s very serious. Put everything on the table from day one. You should aim for zero drama, from day one. See Hebrews 13:4
• 6) — High quality sex life. And this is no joke! Sex is beautiful. God created it to be lived in fullness in the context of marriage, and yes — if you wonder — it can be spicy, in mutual respect and tenderness. Every time she has sexual needs, you must give it to her, and vice-versa. Never deprive her of intimacy. You don’t want to fragilize, frustrate, or create tension within your marriage. Marriage is also prescribed in The Bible because of sex, for its seriousness and importance, see here 1 Corinthiens 7:2-5. This is one of many important factors in the relationship. It should be practiced, cherished, and cultivated constantly. See 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Solomon 4:16.
• 7) — Never stop dating her. Take care of yourself. Always pick time with her, and cultivate your romance. Show her how much you love and desire her. See Song of Songs 1:2
Note to my brothers: While preparing for marriage, don’t do casual sex, and avoid porn by the kindness and grace of our Lord. Remember, sex is beautiful, and we need to elevate it to the sphere of excellence. We, as celibates, need to practice our celibacy with God. I know it’s not easy, but don’t lose patience by having sex with a woman that will not be your wife. We need to value ourselves. If we don’t do it, It can only send bad signals and become an instant turn-off for serious women of God. You don’t want that to happen! If you smoke or drink, I encourage you to ask God to help you — with His love to quit both. Do you think that God is judging you? No, God is good and tender, He knows what you are going through and wants to help you, develop you in all spheres of your life. Know that God allows a man to drink occasionally but without getting drunk. We are all in the same boat, no one is greater than another. Remember that you are sacred, unique, and carefully made. Your goal is to aim for excellence in all spheres of life. Train yourself to become a man of God. Develop both the inside and the outside with God. We all struggle. The process isn’t always easy, but worth it. If you fall on the process, don’t run away from God. But run towards God even more. God loves you all the time. If you live with your parents, or one of them, help them, be there for them. Act like you are already a husband, even if you’re a very young man or already an adult. Train yourself with what you have at hand. Constantly work on your heart and character so that, by the Grace of God, you can enter marriage smoothly. Clean your entourage, make sure they are your true friends that wants your good. Avoid cursing, clubbing, don’t gossip, exercise whenever you can, have an impeccable hygiene, smell good, dress well, you don’t need to spend a ton of money also on those things. Your singleness season is a blessing not a curse. It is there to prepare you in all things.
ROLE OF THE WOMAN

God created man and woman equal in value in His eyes, and both bear His image. They were also created with different gifts and roles. When He created them, the initial goal — before their fall in the Garden — was for both, to rule the earth. So, I don’t want you to believe that, as a woman, you are secondary in God’s Heart. While we will develop the role of the woman, I want you to always keep in mind the role of the husband to grasp the proper perspective. I’m saying this to prevent any misunderstanding.
As said for the man’s section. Search for a biblical Christian man of God. Does it imply that all unbelievers aren’t good and moral? Of course not. But God wants to be in the center of your life and couple. God wants you to find a man that already lives for Him, so that the most important thing in your life — Christ Jesus — can be shared, understood, celebrated, and cherished in depth. As you know, not every man professing Christianity is a true believer. Pray to God for wisdom and intelligence to discern things. What does his lifestyle look like? Does he smoke or drink? How does he treat his family? Does he party? Does he go to bars and clubs? Does he curse? Is he prompt to anger? Is he impatient? What is his vision in life? Does he care about not having sex before getting married? How does he live celibacy? No judging here. We are sinners progressing by God’s Grace to holiness. But you both should aim for stability and seriousness. Don’t invest into someone that is not God-sent, because of your lack of affection. Don’t ever ruin your future because of impatience.
If he is a true man of God, and hasn’t his finances checked yet, it is just a matter of time. Don’t bypass him, but rather grow with him if you like him. God will bless you for that. If you see that God and the Bible is a true priority for him, that his lifestyle is sincere towards Christ, then it is someone worth praying for and considering. Again, I’m calling you to wisdom. Know the Scriptures. There are true Christians in all denominations, but not all of them care about the sovereignty of The Bible. For example, Catholic theology is way different from Biblical Christianity. They add other teachings that aren’t in the Bible and contradict the Scriptures. Same thing for Orthodoxy. If you want to live a true biblical lifestyle, beware of those differences. It might create tension in your marriage as well. For exemple, If the man is a Catholic and wants to pray to Mary and the saints, knowing that The Bible forbids praying to anyone other than God/Christ, it will create fractions. See 1 Timothy 2:5, Matthew 6:9
1-) Helper. The woman was created with many special gifts, built within herself. The first one is that of being a helper to man. In His plan, God saw that it wasn’t good for the man to be alone, so when God made women, He made them with this inner gift for their husbands. You have the gift to multiply and optimize your husband’s potential to the very maximum, in all spheres of life. God describes you, and your gift, as indispensable to men. The word for helper is “ezer,” which is also used to describe God when He helps us. It’s a unique and pivotal gift. Understand your husband’s vision and contribute to it, discern where he is at in life, and think about how you can uplift him—spiritually, morally, physically, intellectually, etc. Think of making his life easier the best you can. By doing this, you will fulfill your duty and gain happiness out of it. See Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 31:11–12
2-) Submissive. That word has a negative impression, mainly because of its modern misunderstanding. Secular media or modern feminism love to use it to discredit women. I don’t want you to be afraid of words. In fact, let’s use them as they are. To submit to your husband means trusting in him and following his lead. God calls the wife to put herself under his authority and leadership. Again, is the man superior to you? No. Are you secondary? No. It’s all about order, roles, and design given by God for a successful marriage. Remember, the man’s role isn’t being abusive, or being a dictator to you, nor oppressing you — but sacrificing himself and providing for you and bringing you closer to Christ. He should be Christ-like; He symbolizes Him, and you know how tender Jesus is. You, as a woman, symbolize the church, which is also called the “Body” of Jesus. While your husband gives it all for you and your well-being, God calls you to trust in your husband and follow his lead. All of this in mutual love and respect. You are a team. See Ephesians 5:22–24, Colossians 3:18, 1 Peter 3:1, Titus 2:5. Scriptures say that while you submit to him, your husband submits to Christ. See 1 Corinthians 11:3. Furthermore, we’re called to submit all to one another. See : Ephesians 5:21
3-) Home builder. God says that you also have the gift to build and organize your house and make it an amazing place. Also, you are more than capable both to work outside or inside. In the book of Proverbs, chapter 31, you have the full description of a virtuous woman. That woman can run a business and take care of her family at the same time. See Proverbs 31:16. She is extremely talented in multiple fields. I’m emphasizing this once again, for you to not think that you are “limited” in your duty as a wife. You can work outside if you want to — but it’s not an obligation. In fact, your house and family should be prior to working outside if the situation permits it. Your husband should do his best for you to not be worried about it. Taking care of God, your husband, and kids, if you have them, is already a massive amount of work. It’s good to know how to cook, clean, manage finances, and make sure everyone is feeling good in the house. See Proverbs 14:1, Proverbs 31:27, Proverbs 31:15, Titus 2:4–5, 1 Timothy 5:14. Does it mean that your husband will sit down and look at you cleaning and cooking without helping you, or doing it with you? No. See here Galatians 5:13. Remember that your husband should be like Christ. Christ served us all. Your husband should be there for you as well.
4-) Crown to your husband. Represent your husband well. Bring him honor and respect, both in private and public. Never disrespect him, shame him, mock him, gossip about him, or criticize him, both in private or in public. See Proverbs 31:12, Proverbs 12:4, The wife of Abraham respected her husband so much that she called him “My Lord.” And while it can be strange today, I encourage you to do the same. See 1 Peter 3:5–6
5-) Faithful. Same point for men. Commit to your man fully. Cultivate transparency. There is no point in seeing or texting another man alone, even if he is your friend. You should aim for zero drama from day one. You are all to him, and he is all to you. Marriage is no game at all, you want it to be a true success of God! Think of everything you can do very early to avoid anything that would contribute to fragilizing your marriage, or create tensions. See Proverbs 31:11 and Matthew 5:28.
6-) High quality sex life. Same here! Sex is beautiful, and God encourages the couple to have sex as often as possible. God says that both the husband and the wife do not have authority over their own bodies. Instead, it says that the wife has authority over her husband’s body, and the man has authority over his wife’s body. What does it mean? That you should never deprive each other of sexual intimacy. Your man desires sexual intimacy with you? It is your moral duty to give it to him. Do you need sexual intimacy with him? It is his moral duty to give it to you. All of this within mutual respect, love, and understanding. Sex is very serious; it should not be overlooked. As said above, God says that sexuality is also a reason for marriage. A constant and happy sex life will cultivate your bond strongly. See 1 Corinthians 7:3–5, Genesis 2:24, Proverbs 5:18–19, 1 Corinthians 7:9, Song of Solomon 2:3, Song of Solomon 4:16,
7-) Demonstrate. It’s true, don’t be afraid to show him how much you love him both in words and action. If your husband feel respected, loved and cherished, you can be certain that it will develop him even more, towards God and you. Proverbs 18:22
Note to my Christian sisters: If you are a virgin, cherish it. Don’t give it to no one except the man God has for you. Understand how being a virgin is pure excellence and elegance. Cherish it jealously for God! If you aren’t a virgin, God loves you the very same. Become a virgin again. Don’t do casual sex, practice sincere and true celibacy before God, and prepare to meet your future husband. If we don’t do it, it will send some very bad signals, and can become a massive turn-off for men of God, searching for serious wives. I encourage you to not go clubbing, nor going to the bars. Also, respectfully clean your entourage. Not everyone is your true friend. Some people can be jealous of you and want to drag you into their lifestyles. Act like you are already married. I’m not saying here that you cannot have a social life anymore, but aim for excellence, purity, and high standards, in humility. It’s better to go to some good restaurants, or museums, or cafés, rather than the places mentioned above. Practice the points even in your celibacy. Do you have little brothers or sisters? Act like they are your own kids. Take care of your own home. Help your parents the best you can. It’s good to know how to cook, clean, and manage your own house as early as you can. Try to optimize all the time you have at hand to pray, to know God and the Bible. Watch good sermons online. Follow good christian content online. Optimize yourself the best you can and relax in God. I’m saying this to not delay your romantic life, to make it the smoothest possible, so that you can enjoy it and take deep pleasure early in it. Avoid porn and erotic literature, switch instead to the good and only erotical standard that you can find in the Bible in the book Song of Songs, and meditate its depth. Take care of yourself, physically, morally, spiritually move in faith. God loves you!














